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My name is Kevin, and I just moved back to North Carolina after a year hiatus. West Asheville is now home to me, my two dogs and the worst dating scene since the bubonic plague. No one said dating is easy. Most of us single folks are in uncharted territory. I acknowledge my dating life will be very different than many in the community due to my race, sexual preference and gender.
How does a new arrival meet people during the worst pandemic in modern history? Most bars and restaurants in Asheville are at limited capacity, strongly discourage intertable mingling and close around 9 p. That leaves dating apps, of course. So dating apps, it is!
My first complaint is the chat-to-meet ratio. Most people seem more interested in gaining a new pen pal than a new partner. Why does one an app if not to meet people? The process for me has typically been match, chat, meet up. Seems simple enough. However, there seems to be a misunderstanding of how to use the apps in AVL. Was my distaste for olives really that interesting? Was the picture of me playing banjo with a mask on really that inspiring? There are plenty of ways to pass the time without involving my bruised ego.
Might I suggest trolling recent arrivals to town on Asheville Riff-Raff? Or calling a friend? Was it wrong of me to expect the same out of the apps in Asheville? It looks like it. So, the apps suck. The other approach is just talking to people in real life. There are a lot of butterfaces getting away with murder right now. What if she has the top face of Gal Gadot but the bottom face of Glenn Quagmire? Now you just have to approach someone during a pandemic when guidelines state to actually not do that at all!
The CDC advises the public to limit interactions with strangers, stay 6 feet away from people and to choose safe social activities. To my complete surprise, at some point in the dates, I discover they all know each other. This has never happened to me in NYC. I was shocked and, to put it bluntly, kind of embarrassed. It made me look superthirsty — which I am.
Clearly, dating is hard in general.
Dating during pandemic? Even harder. Dating during a pandemic in Asheville? The apps are a sham, approaching strangers in real life seems to be in bad form, and I have no friends to introduce me to their hot single roommates. Come say hi! And can you put your mask over your nose, please? Kevin Miller is a musician and writer based in West Asheville. He lives with his dogs Elma and Nui. Do you have a poop bag he could borrow? We share your inclination to get the whole story.
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However, leave olives out of this. They are literal nectar of the Gods. On a pizza? In an omelette?? I know that last one is weird, but like French people do it! And they get laid like alllllll the time. Even with names like Pierre, or Michelle! Lives alone with his two olives. Anyone wanna make a salad? I commend your honesty. Good luck on dating — especially in a town full of so many snowflakes and fruitcakes. It kind of feels like your sex shaming me while also putting down the entire town of Asheville. I have to say, even I am impressed with that level of negativity.
Hi Kevin! I just want to say Thank You for sharing your experiences and perspective so honestly and with vulnerability. I read this article because I saw that it was getting a lot of negative attention. I have people in my life that I disagree with very strongly, on many different issues, yet I would lay my life down for those same people. I hope you never feel that you have to apologize for using your voice.
I hate cancel culture, the culture that supports blaming others for our own triggers. I believe we are going to have to start listening better, with the pointer finger put away, if we are to ever to make any strides in equality. Thank you, again. A little confused how the comments here relate to cancel culture at all. Are people not allowed to disagree with the ideas that he expressed? He knew exactly what he was going for with his tone, which may not actually be how he normally expresses himself or is exactly it. The world will never know! There are much better candidates for your apologist comment.
Ewww…wat did I just read? Does Kevin know that theres a Pandemic going on and that meeting up with people is an act of great trust right now?
Hire a sex worker. What ur lookin for is transactional and non committal. Hire a sex worker and pay her well. Problem solved. Now…why would mtn xpress think this article is a cute idea during this time or ever? Oh white male privilege yea thats right. Are we in some combination of the s and s now? Treating them as equal human beings who deserve the same respect that you expect yourself is all that is required to meet someone nice. Is it disrespectful to want to have sex? Well…I guess you do.
I would have hoped that the negative responses to your article and your not being able to meet a nice woman would prompt some introspection on your part, but that is obviously not happening. You deflect and belittle instead of at least attempting to look at yourself.
If you want to meet someone, try being less selfish and immature, and try thinking before you speak. Courtesy helps, too. What about this article is selfish? My need for human touch? My desire for a lover? There are so many of us not getting laid right now, ya know, tensions are high! Thoughts and prayers…. People really dislike you for good reason. Sex is not a basic need or a right.Dating in asheville nc
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